I was told yesterday

That the patterns that emerge in the divorce process reflect the patterns of behaviors, thoughts, attitudes and actions from within the marriage. (I assume they are all exaggerated because of the pain and grief…so I suppose the exaggeration functions like a magnifying glass so I can see my own goodness and wrong doing).

So I begin the process of looking and working with my own behaviors, thoughts, attitudes, and actions through this horrific process with the lense of forgiveness and to look at what patterns are damaging so as to move towards recovery, healing and growing in new ways not yet considered. And to acknowledge what I did well in mercy and goodness.