a major obstacle to transformation is the idea that we can “fix” ourselves. The notion raises some interesting questions. What in us do we believe needs fixing, and what part of us is claiming the authority to be able to fix another part? What parts are the judge, the jury, and the defendant in the dock? What are the tools of punishment or rehabilitation, and what parts of us will wield them on what other parts?
We are programmed from early childhood to believe we need to be better, to try harder, and to discount parts of ourselves that others do not approve of. The whole of culture and education constantly reminds us of how we can be more successful, desirable, secure, or spiritual if we were only to change in some way or other. In short, we have learned that wee need to be different from how we actually are according to some formula the mind has received. The idea that we simply need to discover and accept who we actually are is contrary to almost everything we’ve been taught.–Riso and Hudson
The bulk of learning is unlearning. Let’s unlearn!0